how men bond.
Yup. But here “not all men are like that” right? Yeah… where are those “not-like-the-rest” ones? Not here. Not calling out. They’re probably standing at a safe distance clicking the “hide” button on fb.
she’s not even a person to them, just an object
i want to beat the shit out of all of them oh my god
Summon the lions.
So this is one of the men involved in the raping in Ohio. His facebook even says “Head Rapist at Rape Crew.” He was not charged at all.
If only what he said here wasn’t true.
CAN WE LIKE
OH MY FUCK
THE PRIVILEGE HERE MAKES ME SICK.
I would actually strangle him if I had the misfortune of ever being near him.
“This country loves football more than its own daughters”
I want you all to think long and hard about that.
Just google bomb Michael Nodianos’ name yall
Raging. I can’t even communicate anything else right now, but knew this had to be shared. Bold is my own.
this is the fucking creep who made the video everyone was talking about where he was laughing about it and saying really awful shit that I don’t want to repeat on this post. He’s got a lawyer now who insists he wasn’t at the party while it was all going down, he just got there like right at the end. And yet somehow he had time to stop and making a video of himself laughing over it. He’s a piece of utter shit.
I hope everywhere he steps, there is a lego
and he has a blister.
This is pretty much the best and most succinct way of putting it
So here’s the real reason that rape jokes are troubled territory -
Because rape victims say so.
They get to say that. They get to feel that way. On this, they get to set the cultural rules.
It’s not about right or wrong, or logic versus emotion, or arguments of over sensitivity or hypocrisy - you have the free speech to make whatever jokes you want or talk about rape in whatever way you feel is illuminating. But they get to be upset about it. And call you on it. And be hurt by it.
But consider this:
You get to not be a rape victim.
They, however, are not afforded that luxury. Ever again.
TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE
“RAPE CREW” COACH BLATANTLY DENIES COVER-UP, BLAMES “ANONYMOUS” FOR PERPETUATING FALSE CLAIMS
Two football players kidnapped a sixteen-year-old girl who was possibly drugged and too drunk to resist and took her to several parties where she was then raped. THE EVENT WAS EVEN LIVE-TWEETED BY THE PEOPLE INVOLVED.
From the NYT website: “Twitter posts, videos and photographs circulated by some who attended the nightlong set of parties suggested that an unconscious girl had been sexually assaulted over several hours while others watched. She even might have been urinated on. In one photograph posted on Instagram by a Steubenville High football player, the girl, who was from across the Ohio River in Weirton, W.Va., is shown looking unresponsive as two boys carry her by her wrists and ankles. Twitter users wrote the words “rape” and “drunk girl” in their posts.”
Local parents and authorities in Steubenville, OH are invested in covering the story up, claiming the girl “made it up” to cover up the fact that she drank too much and was out late, and that it’s ruining their football program - despite the fact that there is evidence of these boys laughing and talking about the rape on video and through social media as it happens. DON’T LET THESE SICK BASTARDS GET AWAY WITH IT JUST BECAUSE THEY’RE PRECIOUS FOOTBALL PLAYERS.
(Sidenote: “Dead” is a euphemism for “drugged”.)
HOW ARE WE AT A POINT WHERE WE WILL DEFEND RAPISTS EVEN WHEN THEY HAVE TWEETED, POSTED A PHOTO, AND RECORDED A VIDEO BLATANTLY ADMITTING - BOASTING ABOUT - THE FACT THAT THEY RAPED SOMEONE? WHAT THE EVER-LOVING FUCK.
VIDEO of the rapists’ gloating. Warning: the video is disgusting. In the twelve-minute original, some fucked up shit is said, but what stuck out the most was when someone got disgusted and went to go check on the rape victim and asked Michael (the guy telling all the jokes), “What if that was your daughter/sister?” And he replied, “I wouldn’t care.”
STILL NOT UNDERSTANDING WHY THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO HAVEN’T HEARD ABOUT THIS.
STOP “LIKING” THIS.
THIS IS NOT A “SILENT SUPPORT” SITUATION.
I’M NOT COUNTING “LIKES” FOR THE PRIZE OF JUSTICE FOR FUCK’S SAKE. TELL PEOPLE. GET PEOPLE ANGRY. THEY NEED TO BE FUCKING LIVID.
guys, please reblog. this is just absolutely sick.
If we’ve learned anything from the Tosh incident it’s that nope, women can’t react proactively when threatened with offensive speech because if we do, the guy with the mic can wish gang rape on us and be cheered on by the internet at large while doing it.
If anyone has ever wondered why someone hasn’t spoken up when offended in the moment, this is why.
For starters, here is a link to a fairly informative article.
I would like to preface this by saying: I understand concern. My brother committed suicide. I know what it’s like to not only be worried for a loved one’s safety, but to actually lose them to themselves.
I’d like to say that, if my parents tired to have me committed when I was a legal adult, I would have walked away and they would have never seen me again either. If I thought that my friends and the police were helping them, no one would found me. You aren’t paranoid if they really are out to get you. They want to take away this woman’s rights and freedom because her parents pushed her til she broke.
I was in a similar situation. My parents pushed and pushed me in college until I had a nervous breakdown. So I left. I moved away and stayed with friends. When things stress you that bad, you get away from them. And that is what she has done. I wish her the best of luck. I hope she heals and I hope she finds good friends. But I hope she isn’t found unless she wants to be.
Being triggered does not mean “being upset” or “being offended” or “being angry,” or any other euphemism people who roll their eyes long-sufferingly in the direction of trigger warnings tend to imagine it to mean. Being triggered has a very specific meaning that relates to evoking a physical and/or emotional response to a survived trauma. To say, “I was triggered” is not to say, “I got my delicate fee-fees hurt.” It is to say, “I had a significantly mood-altering experience of anxiety.” Someone who is triggered may experience anything from a brief moment of dizziness, to a shortness of breath and a racing pulse, to a full-blown panic attack. A survivor of sexual violence who experiences a trigger is experiencing the same thing as a soldier who experiences a trigger, potentially even including flashbacks. Like many soldiers who return from war, many survivors of sexual violence are left with post-traumatic stress disorder. Unlike soldiers, however, they are not likely to receive much sympathy, or benefit from attempts to understand, when they are triggered. Instead, triggered survivors of sexual violence are dismissed as oversensitive, as hysterics, as humorless, as weak. Well. Trivializing the concerns of a person whose traumatic experience of sexual violence has been triggered is a legitimate response. But it’s not a very kind or decent one. I will never understand why anyone wants to be the total jerk who evokes someone’s memories of being assaulted by blindsiding hir with a rape joke (or image, or metaphor, or whatever), in the guise of “humor.” No “joke” is worth triggering someone. Not if you understand what triggering someone really means.
Melissa McEwan, Shakesville
I would add to this, of course, that triggers aren’t solely in response to trauma. You can trigger neurological conditions (like OCD, Tourtte’s and ASD); you can also trigger harmful behaviours or addictions (like self-harm, eating disorders and alcoholism). Triggers go far beyond being “just” a PTSD thing. But other than that I agree very much with the sentiment of this post.
(via lavender-labia, toranseisstrong)
Agree with much of this post. It isn’t about being “oversensitive”. It’s about having a visceral reaction to reading or seeing something, and no, it doesn’t have to be part of PTSD. I know for at least one person I know, reading some of the ableist terms that were hurled at them as a child can cause an anxiety/panic attack because of past memories of abuse (both physical and emotional/verbal) associated with them. For another friend, posting about how ugly a person is because they are overweight is enough to trigger that friend into restricting her food intake again. There are a variety of different ways in which this presents, but when someone tells you “I am triggered by this; please stop,” shut up and fucking listen. It’s more than “I got my feelings hurt.”